It is not a matter of judgement between friends. We correct in grace and encourage in love. Words spoken must be kept in trust for the sake of the sharing and the promise of desire to be honest with ourselves and our bonekeepers. Is there anything in this world more precious than the freedom to be? Did not God himself, in his divine wisdom, not endow us with choice? That coupled with accountability to Him and to each other create the beauty in this world. It is only when the sacredness of friendship is betrayed that we understand the miasmic nature of this world and what our choices truly are.